Love is Blind?!

 Soo 

My favorite Netflix reality show 'Love is Blind' is BACK, BABY!!! With a WHOLE NEW SEASON, WOOHOO!!! I love the show so much that I got my mom hooked on it, too LMAO. It's really interesting and we should talk about it. 

What is 'Love is Blind'? 

Love is Blind is basically a Netflix reality TV Show. It is a love experiment. 15 men and women blind date each other (LITERALLY - THEY DON'T GET TO SEE EACH OTHER - THEY CAN ONLY HEAR EACH OTHER THROUGH A WALL) for about 10 days or so. The point is to ensure that they fall in love with 'souls' rather than physicality. After they find a meaningful connection with someone that they have blind dated, the guy (or the girl! Hey, it's 2024) proposes and the couple is officially engaged. 

They're then taken to a sexy romantic getaway in Mexico (which looks so lavish that it is definitely on my bucket list) to test whether they are physically compatible (which is obviously integral for any relationship to work). Here's where it gets spicy. All of the engaged couples are taken to the same hotel and are forced to interact with each other SO everyone gets to meet the other people they blind dated (and rejected perchance) in person. It's super interesting because that's where many either 

a) get jealous 

b) regret their current choice 

c) feel more secure about their choice 

I love this part because it is a real test of how sure you are about your partner. After watching five seasons of this show, I've seen it all. I've seen men trying to get with girls they didn't work out with when they blind-dated. I've seen women trying to break up other relationships out of jealousy and regret. I've seen couples break up by the dozen. And I've seen other couples rise above the rest, stronger than ever. The dynamics are honestly really fascinating because as much as I know that watching Netflix reality sounds stupid, you learn a lot. You can actually draw connections to real life. Like I've seen people on the show who resemble people in my life -  they've made similar decisions, they have similar reactions to situations. It's interesting to actually hear these people out and understand where they come from - it puts a lot into perspective. ALSO the main message of the show is NOT necessarily that love is blind, but that it is complicated. I can fully testify to that. 

Love is a complex phenomenon. I used to believe that it could only be associated with a few common symptoms (butterflies, sparks, jitters) but I realize that it's about feeling safe, secure, and supported no matter what. And that is only the basis of it. There's physicality, there are love languages, there's communicating, there's distance, there's prioritizing, there's reassuring, there's balance, and most importantly - there is vitality in growing into your own person whilst adopting the traits you love and want to consciously emulate of the other person without losing the essence of what makes you the child that your parents love, the friend that your peers feel lucky to have, the student your teacher looks forward to teaching, and the version of yourself that makes you feel most secure and comfortable. Add exes and jealousy to all of that and you get one hell of a show. 

Love is Blind is an experiment. Would I want to experiment with my feelings on a public forum? Hell nah. But am I entertained by others doing so? Um, yeah! Love is Blind has been marketed really well. It's associated with unconditional acceptance, emotional gratification, and the idea of not changing for anyone - things that our generation, especially can NOT stop talking about. That is why the show is a success (especially abroad). But underneath all of these idyllic themes, also lies the fact that this experiment toys with people's lives. This is reality. People are getting married within weeks of knowing each other. And many couples have gone through divorces, too. This is not just my weekend entertainment. This is someone's life. Someone across the globe is experiencing emotional turmoil because of this. The show was aware of the fact that divorces are highly likely as a result of the process. Very strategically, they call it an 'experiment'. It takes away any accountability that they should ideally possess for such grave issues. And people don't blame the show at all. You can't, really, and that's why it's smart. 

Do I think it's okay? I really don't. The process is too sped up. The choice of people is not it in most of the seasons. The timeline is crazy. The rigidity is unfair. But I still watch it, which makes me a hypocrite? But I guess we all are, somewhere or the other.

Do I believe love is blind? Nope. Really isn't. Everything matters. As much as I want to be emotionally fulfilled for the rest of my life, I also want a whole lot of other things (as anyone with high standards does). Ultimately, the people who found their spouses through the experiment were really damn lucky, because the failure rate is WAY higher than the success rate. After all, the odds of finding someone you are attracted to mentally, emotionally, and physically are incredibly low. 

Anyway, that's it for today. It is 22 mins past midnight and I have a bio class tomorrow at 10:10. Goodnight, world! (gonna watch my episode and sleep hehe) 

xoxo

aishu

19-02-2024





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