The Heart Wants What It Wants?

Google defines 'love' as 'the intense feeling of deep affection'. According to me, those are the simplest words that can be used to break it down, but they hardly capture its true effect. I am almost 17 years old, and in the last 4 years of my life, I have seen a cycle repeat itself. 

Fall for someone/Befriend someone
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Tell all of your friends the person is amazing/Think you found a perfect best friend
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Go out with them/Hang out with them
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Devote all your attention to the relationship/Enjoy the friendship 
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Break up/Drift 
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Listen to Olivia Rodrigo
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Read Instagram posts about heartbreak and feel sorry for yourself
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Fail to get over the person/Miss the person 
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Get insecure
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Get over the person

This cycle brings out the immature side in any person, understandably. Getting over someone and moving on in a friendship (OR relationship) is probably one of the most difficult things anyone can do. It is a conflict between the head and the heart and that is NOT a place you want to be in (trust me). 

As Sel Gomez rightly said, sang, "the heart wants what it wants", it really does. I've seen friends get over a situation in days whereas some take months and maybe years. And honestly, it's okay to take time to get over someone. It's okay to feel scared to let go. It's okay to miss what you had with the person. 

Despite losing a few friends this last year, 2021 was the best year of my life. It hurt and I hated it, and I still do, but I met new people, I had new experiences, I had new stories to tell. Sometimes losing people is for the best. Clear the clutter. You deserve better. 

So I understand that the heart wants what it wants. But maybe it's time you tell your heart to want what you deserve, and you. deserve. better. periodt. 

xoxo
aishu
06-02-2022

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